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This video features a discussion about overcoming adversity after therapy in a nutshell proved insufficient. The speaker shares their journey from feeling like a victim to becoming an advocate, detailing how they began helping others by embracing self improvement. The conversation touches on the challenges of dealing with trauma and finding effective ways to cope and work through difficulties, emphasizing the importance of mental health and healing.

Discover the pivotal moment that shifted us from tolerating life to truly thriving. Explore the power of coaching and therapy in overcoming trauma and embracing a fulfilling future.

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when now at some point in that after 10 years of struggling with this, you decided, "I'm not gonna be a victim anymore, I'm gonna be a, uh, advocate or and a survivor- Yeah. and an advocate and, and help people." How do you begin to help people? Oh, well, it was a, uh, a long journey.

[24:25-25:11]

Um, so, I mean, I, I was in and out of therapy over the years, um, but it still it wasn't enough because I was still, you know My therapist would know what was going on and I, and I just like you know, they'd be like, "Okay, do you, do you want to talk about getting it up?" "No, I don't wanna go there." So I just would not touch that wound. It was like we could talk about everything else that's going wrong in my life even though some of them were connected, but it was just like, "We're just not going there." Um, and I You know, for me, really the wake up was, um, when I started, um, the coaching program which, um, you know, to become a certified coach, and I only got into the, the first course 'cause a good friend of mine kept saying to me like, "You gotta take this course." You know, I was working in finance, okay?

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I was a financial controller for a private mortgage company. Wow. And it was a secure job, I was like, "Okay, this looks good." You know, it's paying my bills, all is well and, and close friend of mine is like, "No, no, you gotta, you gotta try this coaching course." She had just become a coach. I didn't really know what coaching was about at all, but really just to shut her up, I went and took this course and, um, you know, I go in there and it's all everyone's talking about feelings and things and it was like, "Oh, geez.

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Okay, here I am." "I'm here." And then the final, um At the, at the end of the weekend, you know, the instructors are giving their parting words of inspiration and one of them, you know, says, "Don't just tolerate life." And it was like, for me it was like just, just hit me in the heart. 'cause I had realized, like, I was tolerating everything.

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Like, okay, yeah, I'm in this job that is paying the bills and I should be gr- you know, I'm telling myself I should be grateful, but it's not what I was meant to be doing. And I was in a relationship at the time that was really very unhealthy bec- well, how healthy could it be? I was not healthy. And so I'm not attracting a healthy partner either So, you know, he, he had his own trauma, so we were just We were bonded over our trauma. And, and just looking at my life going like, "Oh my God, I'm tolerating everything here." And so that's when it was like, "Okay.

[26:38-27:01]

I, I'm done." And I also had just turned 45 around that time. And it was like, "Okay. I have lived pretty much half my life at this point, and too much of it has been in pain. I can't live the next half of my life this way. Like, I just can't do that to myself." So, um, so I started doing, like, deep, deep therapy, lots of work, lots of trauma work.